Being responsible for all these kids...

Christy · Newbie Joined: Jan 12, 2010 Posts: 2

My boyfriend has an exwife with five kids. We live together and have been together about 18 months. They broke apart when the last child was 6 months that child is now 2. We have two of his children by another woman living with us as well as my child. That is a total of 8. Thats no problem. He gets his other 5, 4 days out of the week. The children are not taken care of well by thier mother. Their mother expects my boyfriend to do everything. He is a wonderful father and I commend him for it. I love him and leaving is not an option because I love the life we have together, however it is becoming a bit much because the exwife expects him to do everything. She doesnt buy clothes , feed them as she should and want him to take them to school to games spend every moment of his time with them, and whenever they are at home they call him asking to get picked up or to bring food because they have none. Im tired of it. Those three days out of the week that they are not here gives me time to recuporate. She will call and ask him to go pick thier son up on a day that she is supposed to have them, but if he asks her to do something like that she will b*** about it. She also went out of state for a whole 5 days and he was left with the children and I was upset because I dont think that is fair considering they are to share custody. Please help!!!! Mad

JohnB · Newbie Joined: Feb 03, 2010 Posts: 6

Hello:

I think you just need to sit down with your boyfriend and tell him exactly how all of this makes you feel. You are coping with more than you should really have to. Life should be a joy for you as well, and you are selling your happiness short. Don't let this thing continue to be a burden in your life. Demand a change and a solution from your boyfriend....this really is his mess not yours!!!

John